Category Archives: Pre-Marital/Early Marital

I’m giving a presentation called “Husband Training 101″ in my old Michigan stompin’ grounds next week for my step-mom’s Women’s Conference. Some people have recoiled against the choice of word “training” as they think it sounds demeaning somehow–like training a dog (what’s demeaning about training a dog? Okay, I know, I get it–the problem is that I’m supposedly comparing husbands to dogs. Am I? No, I are one! Husband, not dog, that is…). My point is that good training in ANY aspect of life tends towards mucho better results (sports, work, school, and yes, marriage, family, parenting AND even husbands).

But, what do you think? Add a comment below.

My reasoning is simply based on the very definition of training (bolds and CAPS added by me…):

train•ing |ˈtrāni ng | noun

the ACTION of TEACHING a person or animal a particular SKILL or type of BEHAVIOR: in-service training for staff. • the ACTION of undertaking a COURSE of EXERCISE and diet (i.e., DISCIPLINE) in PREPARATION for a sporting EVENT (i.e., marriage or family life): you’ll have to go into strict training.

Phrases: IN (or out of) TRAINING undergoing (or no longer undergoing) physical (or RELATIONSHIP) training for a sporting event. • physically (or RELATIONALLY) FIT (or unfit) as a RESULT of the AMOUNT of training one has UNDERTAKEN.

Yeah, heaven forbid we get trained in our roles as husbands to be well-prepared and skilled. Heaven forbid wives learn effective and respectful training methods to teach particular skills or preferred types of behaviors. Instead, let’s continue to argue, fight, and bicker and/or continue to stonewall, shut down and ignore each other all of which is much less demeaning than “training.”

Rant out.

Come see me! If you’re in Kalamazoo, MI on March 8th or 9th come check out my FREE (yea!) presentations: “Stress and Anxiety: Mastering Strong Emotions“; “Husband Training 101“; and “Building Strong Families with ‘ACCCTS‘”. Go to My Speaking Cal for more details. Do it!